Well, if your date exhibits some of the signs below, prepare to run for the hills and break out in song a la Julie Andrews for he may not be the Captain Von Trapp you were hoping for.
1. He'd rather spend time with his friends.
He makes a date with you but changes his plans at the last minute because his friends “need” to have dinner with him. This means you're just not important enough to him, or he's just not very keen. If he's really interested in you, he'd KIV his friends, not you.
2. His friends have never heard about you.
It's inevitable that you'd bump into his friends while the both of you are on a date. And for inexplicable reasons, it'll always be on a day you feel exceptionally fat and have mad hair, but that's besides the point. You know they have never heard about you if they all have the “OK” faces and exchange the perfunctory handshakes. If your date has been gushing about what a sweetie you are, they will all be exuberantly chorusing “OHHhhhhh!” or shooting knowing smirks at each other. And you know what I'm talking about.
3. Phonecalls are always abruptly ended.
He's never delighted to get your phonecall and is itching to get you off the hook on the pretext of “Oh shit! *insert something important*!”. This means he's probably not interested in you but doesn't want to be the bastard who rejects you so he waits for you to back out of the “relationship” first.
4. Not so instant messsaging.
Is he repeatedly unavailable at 11 pm when he used to log on every night without fail? Frustrated that he takes forever to reply you when he's finally on? Reality: He's probably talking to his friends or have you blocked. Solution: Run out and get that pint of Ben & Jerry's you've been craving.
5. You never know when you're going to see him again.
He puts off making dates with you cause he says he's busy or claims he needs to check his schedule. Read: “I want to wait and see if something better comes along.” This is especially true if he only asks you out at the last minute. If your guy is truly interested in you, he'll be asking you out on the next date before the current one is over.
6. He gives you a little pat on your back when you hug.
According to various studies, that little pat means he's uncomfortable with what he's doing. The bigger the pat, the more uncomfortable he is. Also, the amount of contact in a hug also indicates how interested or attracted he is to you. Full frontal contact is positive. But if your date pulls away in some areas, eg: one side of his shoulders, it could be a sign that he's distancing himself.
7. He averts his gaze when you're talking to him.
A person who looks upwards or to his side when talking to you is probably lying. Especially if he doesn't look at you when he says, “I like you, but let's take it slowly and get to know each other better.” He really means, “Let's just be friends who don't keep in contact.”
8. You feel he's distant when spending time together.
If you feel uncomfortable while sitting in silence, watch his body language which will reveal more than you think! According to body language experts, if your man turns the centre of his chest away from you (effectively hiding his “heart” from you), it's a big sign that he's not interested. So stop leaning over and cut the puppy eyes; it's not working.
9. He's not interested to have sex with you anymore.
That is, if you've been sleeping with each other already. If he loses interest suddenly, he may be trying to avoid a situation where he may need to express emotion or attachment to you, or has found himself a new playmate. But what's done is done, and nothing will change the fact that you were his bitch. You dirty, dirty ho! I can only hope it was at least good for you. Nothing sucks more than knowing you were just target practice when he ain't a whizz with the gun.
10. He never calls or SMSes you on his own free will.No explanation necessary.
If your date exhibits,1 to 3 signs: Talk to him about how you're feeling. He could just be clueless about what he's doing to you or is going through a rough patch. No need to panic.
4 to 6 signs: Red Alert! You're on very dangerous ground. Proceed at your own risk. Pain almost guaranteed. Should you wish to continue, I can only say you're such a sucker for punishment.
7 to 10 signs: Google the lyrics for the Sound of Music right away, Ms Andrews.
--Article writen by Bryce Tan
